(No one ever said anything enlightening while they were piss drunk.) Sometimes, you manage to trick yourself into being okay with it momentarily, but it always comes out in the end, especially when numerous shots of tequila are involved. Pretending you’re okay with the arrangement only lasts so long. All this does is reinforce the casual standstill nature your relationship is stuck in. Only you can make this decision.īut if it's a mutual understanding among various people, take some time to consider what your friends are saying. People don't have all the answers, especially if they haven't witnessed your relationship first-hand.
I’m not saying you should base your relationship solely off their opinions, though. If your close friends all agree you’re being taken advantage of, then it’s probably because you are. 5. Your boy- or girlfriends already think you’re too good for him. Even though this person is unaware of all you have to offer, someone else will eventually come along and see everything crystal clear. You cannot let one person’s vantage point affect the way you see yourself as a whole.Įveryone sees the world from a different perspective. If you accept the same one-line excuses and never progress, it tortures and diminishes your self-value. Trying to convince someone he should be with you is one of the worst feelings in the world, especially when you care deeply for him. In the end, though, you’ll always want more than you are given, and the happiness will never be absent from the sadness that lies behind it. So why stick around? It’s obvious because even in our misery, we still find happiness when we are with this person. If you don't see a future with this person, waiting around just delays the inevitable and makes it harder for you when your heart finally does decide to concede and resign. Time is important, but if that's all you have and then some, it's not the saving grace of your relationship purgatory. In reality, no matter how much of a catch you think you are, you can’t be everyone’s type.
Maybe the harsh realty is he just wasn’t that into you, and that hurts. Time is usually a useful tool in building healthy relationships, but if you haven’t even established one after months of "dating," then you have to ask yourself if you ever will. If you think time is the exclusive game changer to pull you out of limbo land, think again.
Sure, love is amazing and having someone to share it with is even better, but it's not everything. If not, focusing on yourself isn't a bad gig, either. The second you look up from the disappointment of someone who can’t reciprocate your feelings, you’ll realize how many others would. When you're desperately trying to win over someone’s affection, you’re impervious to all the other signals being thrown at you from other people. We’re too busy dwelling on what we did wrong to realize sticking around might be the biggest one. It's a painfully sad and happy moment when you realize how many other people out there would jump at the chance to take you out. There’s always someone else ready to pick up the slack. If you are one of those people stuck in limbo land, here are nine more reasons you should consider moving out. Maybe this person does actually care about you, but just not enough to put in the necessary effort and give up all the "freedom" he or she so naively believes a relationship holds him or her back from.Įither way, lingering around just encourages the person's uncertainty, and it paints the picture that you're okay with the situation. Maybe this person has serious commitment issues, and maybe it truly is just complicated. In many circumstances, there is an array of reasons behind the premature status of your relationship. Granted, I can't speak for every relationship out there. We make excuses to stick around because it feels good to have someone around, no matter how absent the person is when you're together.īut here’s what we’ve really done: We have created the damaging illusion that, whatever happens, the relationship was meant to last. We’re hopeful that it will transform into something more. We allow our emotions to cloud our judgment. Why do we stay in these less than fulfilling, dead-end relationships? It’s pretty simple, actually. Whether it started out as a seemingly good relationship, friendship or perhaps even a random hookup, holding out for someone who doesn’t seem interested in a future with you might mean it's time to reevaluate yours. When I say limbo land, I’m referring to a stagnant relationship that doesn’t seem to be going anywhere other than backwards. Yet, even though we tell others to get out, it’s not so easy to take the same advice when your own emotions are personally invested. We’ve all witnessed this situation at some point before, either personally or from afar.
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